At some point in every marriage comes the decision of child-bearing: to have or not to have? That is the question.
Once a couple decides to have children, great care needs to be taken of that child - that gift from God. Child-bearing is a delicate balance of so many things that, if we were to talk about them all right now, the story would never end. But, I want to look at one major child-raising lesson that came up in Isaac and Rebekah's marriage:
And Isaac loved Esau, because he did eat of his venison: but Rebekah loved Jacob (Genesis 25:28).
This powerful statement shows a family divided: mother against husband and son, brother against brother, son against father. The enmity was built into the family dynamics. No wonder the two boys could not get along!
A house divided against itself will not stand (Matthew 12:25), and this family was no different. There are some who say that you have to love one child more than the other, since I only have one I don't have much to say on this. However, I believe that even if you favor one child over the other, none of your children are supposed to know.
Being a child comes with so many challenges that the last thing that should be going through a child's mind is, "I have to compete with [sibling] for Mummy or Daddy's love and attention." Each child should bask in the equal adoration of their parents.
Because of the bias that Rebekah and Isaac had towards their preferred child, each parent was busily trying to further their own agenda at the cost of God's plans. Does that ever work out? God's way is perfect and we only frustrate ourselves when we try to go contrary to His will.
Let's take an example from our Heavenly Father. Each of us are loved equally by an Almighty God. God loves us. Period. No one is valued over the other. This applies if we are rich, poor, or somewhere in between. Our race doesn't matter, and neither does our gender. God doesn't have a weight limit or an age limit. He just loves. Full stop.
Lord, help me to love my children equally and without bias. I seek to do Your will and surrender my plans into Your hands. In Jesus' name. Amen.
What's your take: can you love each child equally? What steps do you take to ensure that one child does not feel more loved than the other?