Samson had married a young Philistine woman. At their reception, he presented a riddle to his guests (Judges 14:14):
“Out of the eater comes something to eat.
Out of the strong comes something sweet.”
After three days with no success, some men approached Mrs. Samson and threatened her life and that of her father if she did not help them.
The Bible tells us that she cried on Samson's shoulders until he told her the answer (Judges 14:16). Immediately, she went and told the Philistine young men.
Only two persons knew the answer to the riddle so Samson knew exactly who had revealed the secret (Judges 14:18). He learnt the hard way that:
One of the lessons of this story is that a relationship based solely on attraction is built on a very weak foundation. Samson did not know enough about his bride to know her character.
I would like to think that if he did he would have been more diligent in keeping his secret. But here's the thing: a married couple shouldn't have secrets from each other. At least, that's my belief.
Keeping secrets degrades the trust that should exist between husband and wife. There should be no one on earth who knows you as intimately as your spouse does. Keeping secrets? That kinda reduces intimacy.
But at the same time, we have to be the kind of person that keeps private things private. Our spouse should have confidence that when something is said it remains between "us two". They shouldn't have to be wondering if they're going to hear it on the streets one day.
Lord, help me to be trustworthy in my marriage. Help me to be a person that keeps private things private. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Are you a trustworthy spouse? If you have faltered in this area, what can you do differently?